Having dreams is great, but they are only dreams without a road map or plan. Most people approach their dreams like someone who would walk up to a ticket counter at the bus station or airport and say, "One ticket please!" The ticket agent then asks, "Where would you like to go?" And the response is something like, "Uh, somewhere better than here."
Only you know where you want to go and if that's only an idea and you really don't know where you want to go, keep reading. I'm going to help you develop a map.
This intimidates a lot of people because they have to focus their aspirations down into something more concrete, but without taking this crucial step it's unlikely that you'll improve your life in any meaningful way. What does the result of your goal look like? How will your life be different or better? What do you want to accomplish? What areas of your life would be more satisfying?
There are three main areas that make sense to focus on and set goals around; Career, Home-Life, and Social-Life.
This is where it's important to take a step back and visualize what your dreams look like and feel like. Science has proven that thoughts are magnetic so when we focus on what we don't have, the Universe tends to deliver people, places and circumstances that prove us right. It will show us that life is a struggle.
But when we focus on what's going well in our lives and the fantastic feeling of our fulfilled desires, our minds become open and receptive to new ideas and the Universe often lights up the path of least resistance to get us there.
First, let's examine the most common excuses people use that keep them stuck. They squash your desires before you even get started.
- I can't. Do you come up with reasons that support your less than ideal life situation? Do you list the ways that it might work for others, but not for you? Do you focus on the potential challenges and competition, instead of the potential opportunity?
- Doing what our parents or other authority figures say we should do. My dad made his money in real estate and then stocks, so even though I hated my college internship at an investment firm, I went into finance after graduation and spent five years disliking what I did for work. I lived Monday through Friday so that I could forget it all and party all weekend. My dad wanted me to succeed and finance worked for him, but that was his truth, not mine.
- I have too many other responsibilities. Does it feel like making the change would have been easier several years ago, but now you've got a family or children and so it's too late? Bullshit!
- I'm too old to change. If it's your career that you're looking to improve, identify how many years are left in your working life. Most people work from ages 20-70. If you're reading this and you're around 40 years old, you'll have 30 more years to work! Do you really want to spend 30 miserable years working a career you don't love? Want to know what famous online marketers Gary Vaynerchuk and Stuart Ross have to say about it? Click here.
- I need the security of my job. That fear-based thought kills dreams. Employers rely on it and besides, how do you define 'security?' Does it include, happiness, fulfillment, personal growth, new horizons, new relationships, etc?
Once you've identified the lies that are killing your dreams, you'll gain enthusiasm and energy. You've begun to surrender to your desires and your subconscious mind will go to work illuminating the path that will get you there. So, it's time to move onto the next step.
Now, let's imagine your ideal life 5 years from now. Grab a notebook and pen and write this stuff down!
Where do you want your career to be?
- What kind of income would you like to have each month?
- How many hours do you want to work each week?
- Will you be in your same job, or doing something different?
- What kind of responsibilities will you have?
What will your home life to be like?
- How often can you go out to eat?
- How many vacations each year will you take?
- Will you live in the same place you live in now?
- How much quality time will you spend with your kids or partner?
- What kinds of activities will fill time? Will you watch less TV?
What will your social life be like?
- What social groups will you be part of?
- How many close friends will you have?
- How often will you see your close friends?
- What causes might get you involved in your community?
It's only possible to achieve what we plan to achieve. Remember that!
Now, set targets. You'll get there one step at a time. Cut it up into bite-sized pieces. Football teams win games one play at a time.
My 30-day plan for career
- Identify several tasks you've put off and be sure to get them done. Get rid of those reminder sticky notes!
- What steps can you take this month that will increase the chances of having more income down the road?
- Are you going to work over time, or take time off to focus on other things this month?
- Who must you meet to open doors for your career? Make one call or write one letter each week to someone who might be able to help you, but make an offer to help them in some way.
- Write thank you notes to those who have helped you. Better to thank someone late, than not at all.
- What will you do each morning to better prepare for the day?
- Will you subscribe to one new business publication?
My 30-day plan for home
- How much time each day will you set aside specifically for your spouse and kids? Will you set aside one hour each day to give your full, undivided attention to them?
- Give one compliment each day to your family? Show your appreciation.
- Do something special or go somewhere special each week.
- Watch less TV.
- Plan out a few date nights.
My 30-day plan for social life
- Make a plan to call one old friend each week, to say hello.
- Decide to ask more questions and get to know your co-workers better.
- Join the club or organization that you've had your eye on and go to at least two meetings.
- Make a plan to watch less TV.
- Thank people who have meant something to you or helped you in some way.
Get prepared to TAKE ACTION and honor detours as learning experiences. Remember, even a wrong turn can get you to the right place! Don't get too discouraged when there's a setback.
Setbacks and detours don't mean your goals have to change, just that the route has changed. That's how successful people think.
You can't profit unless you invest, and you're investing in self-improvement and thus self-empowerment. This is how you achieve above-average results in career and life. You don't have to have an above-average IQ to set goals. You don't have to have any special degree to do the things listed above. There's no age limit or requirement, only a desire to change.
Illuminate your goals and they become the pilot of your subconscious mind. The image of your ideal life is what's needed to make it reality, so start there and then develop your 5-year plan and then multiple 30-day plans. Every task is one step toward your goals.
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One of my main values is family. I decided to make a change and learn the skills necessary to be self-employed online, so that I'm always available to make memories with my wife and kids.
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